|Reflections: Expressing How You Really Think and Feel
I read that “disappointment that is not expressed calcifies into resentment.” That’s from Emily Anhalt, a clinical psychologist. We all need to take care of relationships by communicating and working through frustrations as they happen.
The fact of the matter is that when there are issues that need to be addressed – personally or professionally, they don’t get better without talking about them. They just fester. And sometimes it’s challenging to talk about them, either because we fear consequences or that others won’t be receptive to us. But there may be few things more important.
I find it useful to think about connecting integrity to expressing our thoughts or feelings. From an interpersonal perspective, integrity has much to do with your thoughts and feelings matching your actions and words. And when we are off kilter in this area, it feels awful (I’ve been there and you have too). You can disagree without being disagreeable and as the old saying goes, you can say what you mean, without being mean. But it’s candor that creates real conversations. Otherwise, you aren’t taking care of the relationships in your life, and you just aren’t being you.